Success…. At What Cost?
by David Lowry
“And the work I put between us, doesn’t keep me warm” – “The Heart of the Matter” – Don Henley
One of my goals with my blog is to not only touch on the business end of things, but also the emotional side of things. This dream you are following has a strong emotional tie to it and usually the people around you, especially your significant other or those closest to you. Something that we managers sometimes have to deal with and that no one really thinks about is the price one pays for being in the entertainment industry. All of us who chase a dream often have to sacrifice so much to achieve it, just make sure it is worth the price.
This blog is going to be a one sided look at this topic as there are so many variables to consider her such as a jealous significant other whether it be of other people or of the career itself. We aren’t going to cover that here, what we will cover is assuming that you have a good stable relationship with the love of your life, what can happen to that when you are willing to sacrifice that for a dream, especially a dream that is nowhere near coming true.
When you are an entertainer of any kind, so many issues can pop up such as jealousy, never being home and not being able to spend enough time with the one you love. In a relationship, both people sacrifice so much for one person’s dream to come true and the person who is pursuing the dream needs to keep this in mind at all times. A very serious effort needs to made to spend time together and not get lost or wrapped up in the dream so much that you emotionally abandon the one you love or that you are willing to sacrifice this person who you say you love more than anything for a dream. It is very hard to be successful at anything without the support of the one you love. It can make or break you sometimes. You know the old saying “Behind every great man, is a great woman.” or vice versa. This holds true especially in an industry that is mostly negative and involves a lot of rejection. It is also my personal opinion that success on any level really means nothing without that special someone to share it with. I have been there and for me at least it falls utterly flat in feeling compared with my being able to share it with the love of my life. Remember that your dream won’t keep you warm at night, it won’t hold you and tell you everything is alright when things are at their worst and it won’t take care of you when you are sick.
Hopefully you have a relationship where you are both on the same page and you both want the other to succeed and are completely supportive. If this is true, then with good communication then you can make it through anything. Keep your eyes on the prize, but as a team. You as the entertainer need to decide what is more important, your dream or the one you love. If it’s the dream then tell the other person now. The three most important and destructive words in the english language are “I Love You.” Don’t say this if you don’t mean or can’t act on it EVER, it doesn’t matter who you are talking too. You are just going to hurt them more when the truth comes out. Don’t let it be a shock down the road to this special person if you decide to leave them for an entertainment career as this person has most likely sunk everything they have emotionally and probably financially into you. If the dream is more important than this person, than this probably isn’t the love of your life. You may care about them, but the love of your life is one person you would sacrifice anything for including your dream. Take it from me, nothing is worse than losing the love of your life. It’s not worth it.